People are weird!
Even the online dating success stories...start with...I met my husband after online dating for *insert relevant number* of years! YEARS! Its been two months and I am about to throw myself out of the cat flap!
Dates 4 and 5 were with the same person, which is an improvement on the first three, and I was feeling ok. I was much less nervous this time around than I had be.
This may have been because the date was with 'Nice Guy' - I have nicknames for all of them, and his was nice guy because he seemed normal and nice.
I met him for coffee and then we walked around the city for a bit and it was really nice in that respect and at the end of the date he asked me for a second date! I said yes, I wasn't sure about the chemistry but he was funny and we had laughed a lot on the date and I thought, why not?
The only thing that concerned me was that he mentioned his ex a lot...not a big deal..he was the first guy I had ever been out with who:
had a beard
was older than me
was older than me
But we did laugh a lot, and I was not sure he liked me like that, in true Katy style I asked him and he said he was. So I thought...ok, lets look forward to the next date!
The dinner was nice, we talked some more, we laughed a lot. Again he mentioned the ex when I asked about his work - apparently his boss is like his ex - which of course made me wonder. And....in true Katy style I asked him if he still had issues with his ex....he said no so I took him at his word.
When we left the restaurant, he held my hand and when he dropped me home, we kissed me goodbye.
Later that night, he texted me and we chatted about somethig irrelevant and I was left thinking
he didnt ask me out again
he hasnt mentioned if he enjoyed it
whats the deal
and....yes...in true Katy style (I do like to know where I stand!)...I asked him if he enjoyed the date...he replied....
I did. You?
The cold shoulder....
What kind of reply is that? So I said..I did. And then changed the subject....then I thought...I shall just ask...because I wont go on dates with anyone else until I have finished dating the previous person...so I said...I was just wondering if there was going to be a third date or if he wanted to be friends, either way I would be cool with that.
Yep! NOTHING! And he hasn't said anything still....completely blanking me but fear not I have just left it at that...and I am left not knowing why? I don't even need a why...just a simple not interested would do.
It did occur to me when I was having a conversation recently about third dates and people who sleep with a guy on the third date...and i wondered if he thought I was thinking that, there is no way I would have as he was called 'nice guy' for a reason and I knew that if I dated him...I probably wouldn't reach second base till date 6! let alone the whole way...surely with him it would have been date 20? I don't know. All I know is he was a nice guy...who didn't have the balls to tell me to fuck off! Its an annoying characteristic that all these guys say their biggest flaw is that they are too honest...so why are they lying to themselves?
As you can see, I am very frustrated by this...and I wonder if maybe I am asking too much too soon, but I want someone to like me and my annoying ways.
So...fingers crossed once again that this is the last date I blog about!